Catching Life’s Currents/Guidepost Ten: The Power of Attraction

(Paid Subscribers Only) How Attraction quietly shapes who enters your life—and who stays; plus a fun test to understand why you easily bond with some people, but get instantly annoyed by others.

In Guidepost Ten: The Power of Attraction, we’ll explore why you feel instantly comfortable with some people, inexplicably irritated by others, and deeply energized—or drained—by certain social environments. We’ll delve into why we naturally gravitate toward people who mirror us, how opposites can attract when curiosity and respect exist, and how social patterns reflect both your strengths and growth edges. Along the way, you’ll gain practical tools to recognize these patterns in yourself and others, understand different temperaments, and make choices that help you navigate your life.

Once again, we begin with a story…

I came upon a girl whose boat had gone aground. She was waiting for someone to come along and dig her out. I suggested she remove a few items from her load so that her boat would ride higher in the water and float. But she kept arguing that each item was necessary.

“Do you want to move on?” I asked.

“I have to move on. I can’t stand it here,” she said.

“Okay, maybe if we both push together, we could get your boat out far enough for the current to take it.”

“But look at all the mud. Poisoned snakes hide in the mud. Besides, I don’t want to get my feet dirty.”

“Well, I saw a wharf up the river a few miles. Perhaps we could walk there and hire another boat.”

“Where will I find the money to hire a boat?”

“I saw a help wanted sign at the dock.”

“I don’t know how to work on a dock. Besides, I can’t leave my belongings. Somebody might steal them.”

“So are you going to stay here and do nothing?”

“What else can I do? I’ve tried everything.”

Eventually, I got bored and left her sitting there, waiting for someone willing to take on her load. Her last words as I pulled away were, “Where are you going? I need your help. Why can’t I find someone to help me?”

The truth is, only a complainer can stand a complainer for long. Birds of a feather flock together. So if you want to attract problem solvers, you need to learn how to problem solve.

The Power of Attraction states: your beliefs, values, and behavior invariably attract people and events in harmony with them. In other words, if you want to attract successful people, you’ll have to become the type of person with whom successful people like to talk. Successful people like to spend time with other successful people. They like people who view life the same way they do and who approach problems with the same ingenuity that they have.

You will never attract those who have mastered the river unless you are ready to master the river. You will never attract a good relationship if you don’t know how to maintain a good relationship. You will never be able to attract growth unless you learn to encourage growth. And you will never be able to attract more unless you learn to become more.

Attraction says that we attract what we are.

In this lesson, we will:

• Explore why we are naturally drawn to people who think, act, and approach life the way we do

• Examine how attraction works through liking, similarity, and shared worldviews

• Look at how opposites can attract—and when that attraction actually works

• Understand why people often twist themselves to fit in, even when it costs them authenticity

• See how the people we feel most comfortable with can act as a mirror of who we are

• Explore how growth changes attraction—sometimes pulling us away from familiar people before new ones appear

• Learn how to administer a two-question temperament test that can help you understand the differences in how people are motivated.

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This lesson is part of a larger learning experience, Catching Life’s Currents: A 14-Week Guideposts Journey, offered to paid subscribers, as well as individual and group clients. If you would like to learn more, click here.